Seduction

Picking Up Girls For Dummies

I found that picking up girls in a general sense of the word (nothing advanced like threesomes or whatnot, but related to 10-minute sex) is related to one fundamental principal: undesperate interest.

I found that if I approached a girl, let her know I found her attractive but never sweated her, that would often result in a lay if I didn’t make myself an unsexable (ie insult her, look horrible, masturbate in public etc.).  Update: the actual practice of approaching a girl is covered in Adam Lyons Bootcamp

Sweating a girl shows that you don’t get much sex, and you think sex is a big deal. This makes her think its a big deal and makes her not want to sleep with you because it makes her feel like a slut to do something so important with some dude. If she thinks sex isn’t a big deal, its just something two people enjoy, thats when she will sleep with you. Sex happens all the time, so if you are a good guy who thinks sex is not that big a deal, chances are she will sleep with you. Girls like sex as much as the next man, so if a good option comes along she will take it.

This is why C&F works. When I was younger, I used to think that C&F worked because girls liked my standoffishness and my lack of interest. That may have been true to a degree, but it worked mostly because it showed I had a sense of humor and didn’t consider sex that big a deal. I showed interested in her by approaching her, and as I joked around it made her feel relaxed. Consequently, if I took the C&F too far, then the girl thought I was just an immature asshole and rightfully categorized me as an unsexable.

This is also why the “fun” vibe projected by Pickup101> and theApproach pua websites works so well. You are not begging for sex and you are interested in them.

Interest is important because 1) it turns a girl on and more importantly 2) girls don’t usually take the initiative so you have to go and show interest before she will reciprocate. It’s usually enough to show interest by approaching girls, and asking the commonalities.

All this is true in fundamental principle, but it doesn’t work sometimes, like in clubs where the girls are waiting to blow guys off. That takes a whole new kind of game in the first 10 seconds, which is where Mystery’s negs play in. But once you get past the shield then this is as applicable as ever. Fun vibes can sometimes break through the shield but you usually need more value than that at clubs.

So basically its enough to be friendly with a girl, show interest, and isolate her. Then it all unfolds. This smacks of maturity and confidence, and nothing turns on a girl more.

As for how to not be an unsexable—thats a different story. In a club, the standards are higher so you need to be cooler in order to be a sexable. But otherwise, in day games, bars, colleges, schools, etc., its enough to be comfortable with yourself and not be a sketcher loser.

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Concrete Seduction Mindset

State Fluctuation? Uncertain Identity? I will not tell you what the importance of concreteness of self is. If there is any question in regards to this, you are in the ENTIRELY wrong head space.

In truth, NOTHING outside of your internal self is relevant to your sense of self and identity is. NOTHING external should be allowed to seep itself in to how you feel about yourself, or what you believe you can do. There is no LOGIC at work here. This is simply what you must believe.

Before I get any further, the topic of LOGIC needs to die when discussing who you are at your purest core, NOW. Logic does not apply here. If we were operating by LOGIC, we could very easily come to the conclusion that, since we will die at some point, and ultimately humanity will come to an end, nothing you do will make a difference and it doesn’t matter how you live your life. THAT is logic. There is no reason to consider it. When you hear the voice in your head start to ask self-defacing questions such as “Is the way I’m acting ‘okay?’” “What about that guy over there?” “Am I good looking enough?” You must tell that self FIRMLY to SHUT THE FUCK UP. This is imperative. This questioning self must cease to exist. STOP IT. SHUT IT THE FUCK UP.

This calls into question certain values many of you probably hold dear to your hearts. “But isn’t questioning beliefs good? Didn’t I have beliefs holding me back? Shouldn’t I be constantly evaluating myself.” NOT if its stopping you from believing in yourself. If you have a strong belief in your IDENTITY, an identity that YOU HAVE CRAFTED on your own, by your own whim, NOT what you think other people will like, the bottom line being an identity crafted on NOTHING EXTERNAL, you have no reason to question. Will this border on BLIND ARROGANCE? Perhaps, but ARROGANCE comes from insecurity, ultimately, which is not something you will deal with. AND EVEN IF IT DID you must be SO SURE of your concreteness that even if you DO realize you are overextending yourself, you will continue anyway. The idea here is SUPREME CONFIDENCE. Personally, I hate the word confidence because it IMPLIES COMPARISON. You must be so CONCRETE there is no question of confidence. NOT “there is no question of confidence” because of how sure you are in your level of confidence, but because YOU DO NOT EVEN THINK OF IT. Stop questioning yourself. Operate under the assumption that whatever you do is the right thing to do, or way to act.

WHY is it the right thing to do? SIMPLE. Because YOU are doing it. The idea of “right” (not morally right, which is a different topic but ultimately the same principles apply. Here the idea is right as in, the RIGHT WAY TO ACT SOCIALLY, etc) is inherently FALSE because it, again, implies comparison. But unlike “confidence,” which implies comparison with YOURSELF, what is “right”(again, socially/with women/OVERALL THE MANNER IN WHICH YOU INTERACT WITH THE WORLD etc) implies a comparison with OTHER PEOPLE.

At which point, a key concept comes in. As earlier established, nothing external should be allowed to seep into your self-esteem or self-acceptance (these ideas too, are flawed because they imply that you could not have them. You get the idea.) One of the major (although one should argue there are no “major” external factors) EXTERNAL factors in your life is OTHER PEOPLE. The KEY is that they do not matter, for ONE REASON ALONE: YOU WILL NEVER BE OTHER PEOPLE. If there is one TRUTH you can rest assured of, it is that you will always possess the consciousness you do now. You could lose all your limbs, your family, worldly possessions, your body could be mutilated, absolutely anything, but YOU WILL ALWAYS POSSESS YOUR CURRENT CONSCIOUSNESS. There is now no reason to question the opinions (in regards to WHO YOU ARE) of other people, or even the thoughts, as they ultimately DO NOT MATTER because YOU WILL NEVER BE THEM.

You may be questioning this and asking IF OTHER PEOPLE DO NOT MATTER, that it is a lonely way to live. The idea is not to stop yourself from talking to people because they do not matter. Or even to not enjoy human relationships. This is not what I am saying. ENJOY YOUR FRIENDS but do not NEED other people in your life in order to feel good about yourself. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE DICTATED TO BY ANYTHING BESIDES YOURSELF, your CORE being.

Lastly, have absolutely NO REGRETS. This is not meant in the typical sense of the phrase, in which you should act in a way that you will regret not doing something later on. Obviously this should be occuring anyway, but even if DO wish you had done something differently, do NOT REGRET acting the way you did. The past is SOLID. It is as it is. BE PROUD AND STAND BY EVERYTHING YOU SAY AND DO, no matter what it is or was. If you are coming from a TRUE place, anything you say or do will be an EXTENSION OF YOUR IDENTITY. STAND BY IT.

This INTENSE RADICAL BELIEF IN SELF (be SELFISH. THAT IS THE IDEA. Self-ish. Not Self-Less. Be OF yourSELF. If you are self-LESS, you do not have a SELF) may seem EXTREME.

That’s because it is. The bottom line is you must realize that your sense of self is ABOVE everything else. It must be ABOVE even this artical. It must be above these message boards. It must be above the SEDUCTION COMMUNITY. YOU ARE SOMETHING LARGER than anything external. KNOW THAT. BELIEVE THAT.

Liking A Girl

I am going to keep this short.
Liking a girl is like HALF direct. It’s admitting to yourself first of all that a girl is in the lines of what you would want for yourself, and then accepting that you will have some work to do to make her see you are worth something.
In the olden days they called it persistance.. but in the olden days men were men, and these days men are still boys.

So: girl you ‘like’.. by ‘like’ I mean you have dealt with this girl on comfortable occasions and found her company to be comfortable, not only that but you have found her to be logically beneficial in some way (for example: she would be good at raising the kind of children you might want to have). I know, I am sounding romantic here.. but remember that everything I do is logic.

So HERE is how you do it, and you will be dissapointed by the lack of insider tips I am offering.. but you have to FIRST KNOW THIS GIRL WOULD BENEFIT YOU and SECOND KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU COULD BENEFIT THE GIRL. If you’ve accomplished those two things, without resorting to denial or delusions, (and maybe instead resorting to personal growth), it’s just a matter of plunging and plowing.

PLUNGE AND PLOW, and the be comfortable with them once you have found (or manufactured) a reason to be comfortable in their presence. I have seen people do this with actual lions from the safari.. this is basic mammalian social dynamics.

As I have said before, this is an animal playing field, with survival of the fittest taking precedence among natural rules, but now you have to realize what the new nature is: and it’s people.

And this is basically just an expansion of my last post, with the difference being that I have now totally given up thinking about social things in my personal life (in a choice to appreciate life as a random force) simply because I have become able to get what I want in any situation, and also in an effort to siphon off that extra bit of overthinking into making myself some money from my website.

What I am trying to highlight in this post is the amount of logic that went in, and the amount I personally have taken out of this: Just further examples that drive should be one of your major motivators.

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