I found that picking up girls in a general sense of the word (nothing advanced like threesomes or whatnot, but related to 10-minute sex) is related to one fundamental principal: undesperate interest.
I found that if I approached a girl, let her know I found her attractive but never sweated her, that would often result in a lay if I didn’t make myself an unsexable (ie insult her, look horrible, masturbate in public etc.). Update: the actual practice of approaching a girl is covered in Adam Lyons Bootcamp
Sweating a girl shows that you don’t get much sex, and you think sex is a big deal. This makes her think its a big deal and makes her not want to sleep with you because it makes her feel like a slut to do something so important with some dude. If she thinks sex isn’t a big deal, its just something two people enjoy, thats when she will sleep with you. Sex happens all the time, so if you are a good guy who thinks sex is not that big a deal, chances are she will sleep with you. Girls like sex as much as the next man, so if a good option comes along she will take it.
This is why C&F works. When I was younger, I used to think that C&F worked because girls liked my standoffishness and my lack of interest. That may have been true to a degree, but it worked mostly because it showed I had a sense of humor and didn’t consider sex that big a deal. I showed interested in her by approaching her, and as I joked around it made her feel relaxed. Consequently, if I took the C&F too far, then the girl thought I was just an immature asshole and rightfully categorized me as an unsexable.
This is also why the “fun” vibe projected by Pickup101> and theApproach pua websites works so well. You are not begging for sex and you are interested in them.
Interest is important because 1) it turns a girl on and more importantly 2) girls don’t usually take the initiative so you have to go and show interest before she will reciprocate. It’s usually enough to show interest by approaching girls, and asking the commonalities.
All this is true in fundamental principle, but it doesn’t work sometimes, like in clubs where the girls are waiting to blow guys off. That takes a whole new kind of game in the first 10 seconds, which is where Mystery’s negs play in. But once you get past the shield then this is as applicable as ever. Fun vibes can sometimes break through the shield but you usually need more value than that at clubs.
So basically its enough to be friendly with a girl, show interest, and isolate her. Then it all unfolds. This smacks of maturity and confidence, and nothing turns on a girl more.
As for how to not be an unsexable—thats a different story. In a club, the standards are higher so you need to be cooler in order to be a sexable. But otherwise, in day games, bars, colleges, schools, etc., its enough to be comfortable with yourself and not be a sketcher loser.
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